There’s been something on my mind lately and that is Love.
Art done on Paint; by AJM
What is it exactly?
A discussion in one of my college classes about love suggested that love can be varying. We were talking mostly about the love that you feel towards someone – how someone described as being in love as a sacrifice of themselves, to be so consumed by another person, you forget who you are.
To love someone is to put that other person before you, to care that they hurt, to want to make their passage in this world as easy as possible.
So, the question on my mind is: How do you know when it’s real?
Even as I write this, I find it ironic that every other song on my Pandora station has to do with love, or even has the word in the song. Love is everywhere. It is in the very fabric of our being; to find that place where we belong, where we are appreciated, where we are needed.
In my opinion, it is simple, really. We seek to define love to understand it. We give it different meanings and write different definitions for it. But real love shouldn’t need to be defined, it is only felt. Whether it makes sense or not, is beyond the point.
With real love we risk real heartbreak, but it is a sacrifice that everyone must accept to find where he or she truly belongs.
Me and my cat Milo, when he was a kitten. What a goofball!
On that note, I’ve decided to focus on something else this holiday season…and that is giving gifts to show the ones I love how truly thankful I am to be known by them, to love and be loved.
Every year I struggle with Christmas and the fact that it is so commercialized! (I blame the years I worked in retail. Thanksgiving is by far my favorite holiday!) I’d decided to do a few things to bring myself back into the holiday spirit and to focus on the love and selflessness that the holiday is meant to show:
- make my own gifts this year; instead of focusing on buying, buying, buying
- bake more!
- cherish the memories, never miss a photo opportunity!
- try more outdoor activities
What are you doing to get into the holiday spirit? Thoughts below if you got them!